Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Works For Me Wednesday~ Love language

My small group is doing a study on The Five Love Languages, HD (Happy Daddy) and I read this book together before we started having children and let me tell you it is super helpful!  I have learned that HD's love language is Acts of Service.  My love language is Words of Affirmation.  Now let me say it took me years to understand why it was that I would tell HD how much I loved him and he would smile and nod, he never seemed to get it, but if I cleaned the house and organized or if I ran an errand for him he was elated...  HD is the kind of husband who is totally hands on he will jump in and help with the kids, he baths them and he will do any house hold chore I ask, he really felt like he was showing me love but all I ever wanted was to hear how he felt!  All he ever wanted was to see how I felt.
So what we do is very simple, first we understand how each other loves, and even though it might not be our love language we still acknowledge when the other is trying to be loving.  I pack HD's lunch everyday, that is very important to him, he loves that I get up early so that I can feed him which to him is an act of service, he likes hot breakfast which also is an act of service, now I always put a love note in his lunch box, yes everyday.  I show my love that way, I give him words of encouragement or compliment something he has done, it's a win win situation.
HD is very helpful in our home, from the moment he walks in the door at night even though he has worked on his feet all day he is a 50/50 parent which shows his love language and he trys very hard to tell me how he feels, he compliments any extra work I have done as well as the way that I look which means so much to me.
After understanding how our minds work, it has made our already happy marriage even better, we don't let any good intentional deed go unnoticed.  The Five Love Languages has worked for us, you should check it out it will work for you too.  

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One More Equals Four said...

I totally agree with this. It helps me, also to know what my children's love languages are and how to direct my parenting to them. My middle child, for instance is physical touch and sometimes at the end of the day when I am tired and he is crawling all over me, I have to remind myself not to push him away or be impatient with him because he is just showing, trying to receive love! Thanks for the advice! Hope everything is going well today, if you just need to vent or anything, shoot me an email, I'll listen! said...

My husband read the Five Love Languages books while deployed last time. It was wonderful! They make one for kids, too. We love them all!

Excellent post!

Amy-littletoesandcheerios said...

You are so lucky to have a husband that will help around the house. Andy...not so much.
Changed Madi's diapers the 1st month, fed her once, never has bathed her or changed her clothing and NEVER does housework. Has never done the dishes and done laundry one time.
This is the only subject we argue about.
However, he is a terrific provider and a good husband and father in a million other ways.

**praying for your family.

marky said...

I loved that book, it helped me understand dh and I much better. have you read the one for kids?

Takin' time to smell the flowers! said...

I love it! I'm sorry about your grandpa...I will be praying for you and your family. God is good and he answers prayer, this much I know for sure.

I was recently tagged (for the first time) with a 5 things about meme tag and now I have tagged you. I'm sorry, I hope you don't mind. God Bless you and yours. ~April

Well Behaved Krissy said...

I LOVE this book. I actually just recommended this book to my ENTIRE human communications course.